And oftentimes excusing of a fault doth make the fault the worse by
the excuse. – Shakespeare, King John
The first key to busting your excuses is to identify them and then understand the pay-off you’re getting from using them.
First, you want to find out how enthusiastic you are about your desire.
For that, you list 3 things you regularly say you want to have or do.
Then write down a list of all the reason(s) with which you convince yourself and others why you cannot have or do those things. These are the excuses you use.
Then you determine if you do indeed really want what you say you want or not. Here you have to ask yourself why you want to do that, is it because you feel like you should do it, or someone you like and admire thinks you should do it.
Anything that does not give you a good feeling, decide to let it go.
But when there are things you find you really want to do, then keep reading.
Once you’ve established your list of what you really do want to do and the excuses you use, it’s time to delve down and find out about your benefit for not doing what you want.
Now you make a list of all the “bad” things you fear might happen if you were to take the risk to do what you want. Be totally honest and cover all the bases including the absolute worst-case scenario you can imagine. (for example: if I move across the country, my family will no longer love me or come to see me)
Then you look at each bad thing and rate each one in terms of how likely that actually would happen using a scale of 1 (not likely) to 5 (absolutely certain).
What you’ll find is that most bad things are pretty unlikely to happen if you do what you want to do. And, if something unexpected or unwanted does occur, trust that you’ll find a way to handle it. You could even write a scenario script for that situation, so you know you will be prepared, and you might even figure out how to turn that into an advantage.
Then you look at your list of things you want and see if there is anything you will gain out of not doing it. Then take a look at that gain and see if that really benefits you in the long run.
Now look at all your excuses and see whether or not they are true, I mean really true. It could be something you believe or something you have heard from someone else, or it might be a common idea in your community.
You want to start a business for yourself.
* I do not have any money.
– Nowadays setting up a business is done online and you can do that with a very low budget. Another idea might be to get an investing partner in your business, you can do most of the work, while your partner provides the needed cash. (This is also an extra reason for you to actually do the work)
* I do not know how to do that.
– When you really want to do that, you will be determined enough to find out everything you need. Nowadays most of the information you need is available on-line for free, when you have no internet, use your local library.
* I am too old.
– Find a younger partner and work together. (grandchildren, nephews, nieces could be a great source of partners here)
* I am not good enough.
– I am sure that you are not good enough in many things and you will never be until you learn the skills for that. But there will be things you are good at, use them to leverage anything you do.
* I do not deserve that.
– According to who? This is something that is often a very subjective belief and usually holds no valid ground. I am sure that you can find reasons for why you do deserve to have and do the best you desire. You might have to dig a little deeper and ask the people around you what they think about that. This belief gets shattered very fast in such cases.
* I cannot do it alone.
– Find a partner, a friend or family member, someone you can trust.
* I am afraid that I will fail.
– I guarantee you that you will make mistakes and you will learn from them and be better afterwards. You can also learn all you need to lower the number of mistakes you make. But the most successful people will tell you that they have failed several times before they succeeded. Just do not quit once you have started.
* I have no time.
– Start with a few hours each week, but start, your enthusiasm will find you the time you need. Again, having a partner might give you extra time; you can share the burden.
As you can see there are many ways to work around your excuses, it is mainly determined by how bad you really want to do that certain thing.
Excuses give you a way out of doing it, find out why you would want that and then decide whether you still want to do that or not. If not, just let it go and concentrate on something you really want to do.
OK, so now you can make that list of things you really want to do, then you create a plan, including any support or resources you may need, and then you make it happen. Not “Someday” but Today.
Remember: You Have To Take Action To Achieve Success.
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