Psychological pain is a major concern. It affects the masses. A lot of people we meet complain about a number of disorders such as stress, depression and anxiety, to name a few.
This is due to various reasons such as negative emotions associated with any event which was not a good experience, which ultimately leads to physical pain and in some cases disease. Psychological pain can actually disturb the lifestyle of a person more than physical pain.
In fact, psychological stress is connected to health problems which include chronic inflammation, weakening of immune system, increased blood pressure, and alteration of brain chemistry or sometimes even tumor growth.
There are various causes of psychological pain. Some people experience this because of frustrated psychological needs, for example; the need for love. When we want to be with someone we either ask and say we are rejected, suppressing the hurt or we may not even attempt and say we suppress our fears and become judgmentally of ourselves. There is no wrong in either approach if its not affecting you in anyway and you deal with it.
It is important for you to deal with this so that you can relieve yourself from the emotional stress and carry out your day-to-day activities with ease. Here are five ways by which you can heal yourself and get rid of this psychological pain:
You should let go of rejection.
Rejection usually activates the same pathways in your brain as the physical pain, which is one of the reasons why this type of emotional pain hurts so much. The feeling of rejection plays with your ingrained need to belong to someone, and it is so dismantling that it interferes with your ability to think, recall about the past or even causes difficulties in making decisions. It really is better for your health that you let go of painful rejections as early as you can.
2. Refrain from ruminating.
When you ponder over a past feeling which hurt you and caused you a lot of pain at that time will lead to your mind becoming more distressed and will cause you to feel angrier without any understanding.
Simply put, when you are reflecting on a painful event it can assist you to reach an agreement or closure about it, over-thinking on the other hand simply increases your stress levels and can become an addictive habit.
3. Start turning your negatives into positives.
If you begin to allow yourself to feel helpless and hopeless after you have suffered failure and you try to blame it on things like that you don’t have the ability to do it or bad luck, this is likely to lower your self-esteem. When you blame your failures on factors which are within your control, like planning and execution will cause less damage, but what is even better is focusing on ways in which you can improve or gather more information or be better prepared so that the chances for you to succeed in it get better. Don’t give up, keep on trying and eventually you will get it right.
4. Ensure that guilt remains an emotion which is useful to you.
Guilt can be constructive in context to that it can stop you from doing something that may harm someone else which makes guilt a strong relationship protector. You would never want to hurt someone you love and that feeling of guilt would keep on causing you stress and uneasiness which can be really distressing. And guilt that stays with you or is excessive can hinder your ability to focus on things and enjoy your life. If you still feel guilty even after apologizing for a thing which was wrong, you should ensure that you have shown empathy towards them and express it to them that you understand how your wrongdoings affected them. This will probably lead to genuine forgiveness from the person and will get relief from your guilty feelings.
5. Try using self-assertion if you have low self-esteem
We know that positive assertion can be an exceptional tool for improving emotional health. This can be the case for people who have low self-esteem; those people for whom self-assertions may be more useful. Self-assertions can be something along the lines of, “I am good at this.” This can help you to reinforce the positive qualities which you think you have, or even making a list of your finest qualities. So it is necessary that you have self-belief so that your self-esteem gets higher and you feel better emotionally.
It is really important that you start following these guidelines so that you can relieve yourself from psychological pain. It is necessary that you also find other ways to get rid of this invisible monster which is causing you so much difficulty in carrying out your day to day routine. You need to believe in yourself and never doubt your capabilities and always keep on learning and improving so that you don’t feel lost.
These guidelines may seem simple, but they can be difficult to follow. Sometimes you will feel like giving up but if you are persistent and keep following these simple guidelines you are definitely going to heal yourself from all the psychological pain which was consuming you.