Beyond getting credit for the things we have accomplished, or for the effort we’ve put out, we rely on various types of support in many different areas of life. Obviously as infants this was critical, all of our needs were supplied by others. When we move beyond this substantially physical (material) dependence, we find that the concept of “support” is much more complicated.
In business, as well as in our personal lives, in different ways, and for different reasons, we may find ourselves lacking in this area. Maybe some friends have been critical of our appearance or our lifestyle, or perhaps our families seem to sabotage our efforts to diet, for example.
For women it seems especially hard when it comes to business. It can feel like an uphill battle trying to make progress when you think you’re going it alone. Many of us have been raised to defer to men, so we may be reluctant to look for support if it means “beating a man out for a job,” or making more money. It doesn’t help that even now societal influences underscore that, meaning, women may still be judged for not making family their #1 priority….
How about some general reasons people around you may be unsupportive?
* They fear losing you – your time, your attention, maybe even your love
* They resent you because they don’t feel like they are your priority
* They are jealous of what you have, what you’ve done, or other people in your life
* They fear FOR you – you might fail, and they want to keep you safe
Since we have no control over what others think, perhaps we could look at the other side of the coin:
* Do I give my support freely to others?
* Am I authentic on all levels, or do I play the victim and try to “force” others to support me?
* Do I have unrealistic expectations of what others should do, or are capable of doing?
* Am I not being supported, or do I just want a different “expression” of support?
That last one is interesting…what do you consider, or want as, support? Is it listening to you, smiling, congratulating you, offering assistance, giving off [energetically] a happy-for-you vibe, doing something special for you, or giving you a gift of some sort? Maybe your optimum evidence of support just needs to be communicated clearly.
No matter what your situation is within your environment/sphere of influence, you are ultimately responsible for you. Remember your worth and value are inherent! Stay anchored in your integrity, know your purpose, have patience if you’re in a transition period (when others may not know how to respond yet), let go of the attachment of NEEDING your family, friends, and co-workers to support you – be the leader of your own life. When you live in total alignment with yourself/your core values, you can’t help but be a magnet for those who DO support you.
If it doesn’t seem immediately obvious, most of the time a lack of support is motivated by fear, which is a crippling mindset regardless of what is happening in your life. We are here in many ways to SUPPORT you.? Please check out our Facebook Page daily; we also offer one-on-one support:
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